There Is Tremendous Power & Energy In Anger
November 18th 2006 13:28
So many people are so fearful of the kind of anger that may evoke such a statement. Anger is intense, and is remarkably powerful. Shakes one right out of the numbness that is often associated with dissociation and simple retreat from the complications of modern life.
Anger, yes this is what I shall address. So, please, clean out your hearholes.
So much energy in the first sessions when dealing with anger is to move beyond the denial that anger may be creating some difficulty in the life of the client. As if anger shouldn't be a part of the makeup. So to educate and normalize a bit becomes the task.
That is a 'psycho-didactic' approach, and many indidviduals seem to find it less threatening than 'therapy'. Semantics are funny, yes?
These are the common elements I include when 'normalizing' the issue so that we can move beyond resistance and denial:
1. Anger is common and the opportunity to experience such is quite normal.
2. There are many things that contribute to anger, including genetic and learning legacy, family of origin levels of chaos and dysfunction, level of stressors in the present, and personal expectations.
3. There is tremendous power and energy in anger. Thusly, the many people who come to terms with their anger enhance their levels of effectiveness and sense of empowerment. Conversely, those who do not come to terms with their anger often live out their lives in reactive and disempowered fashion.
4. Some people seem to feel alive only when they are angry, because of the energy, power, and passion that comes with it. A reminder, if you will, that "Oh yes, I am alive!" This may also explain the whole notion of why 'makeup sex' can be so intense.
Typically, after this orientation-like discussion, I will send a client home with a worksheet that allows them to think and process this material. When they return, they often seem very motivated to approach, engage, and even embrace their anger.
In fact, it is remarkable that I still have ears in place, rather than mere hearholes.
HOW IS YOUR ANGER?
deorre
Anger, yes this is what I shall address. So, please, clean out your hearholes.
So much energy in the first sessions when dealing with anger is to move beyond the denial that anger may be creating some difficulty in the life of the client. As if anger shouldn't be a part of the makeup. So to educate and normalize a bit becomes the task.
That is a 'psycho-didactic' approach, and many indidviduals seem to find it less threatening than 'therapy'. Semantics are funny, yes?
These are the common elements I include when 'normalizing' the issue so that we can move beyond resistance and denial:
1. Anger is common and the opportunity to experience such is quite normal.
2. There are many things that contribute to anger, including genetic and learning legacy, family of origin levels of chaos and dysfunction, level of stressors in the present, and personal expectations.
3. There is tremendous power and energy in anger. Thusly, the many people who come to terms with their anger enhance their levels of effectiveness and sense of empowerment. Conversely, those who do not come to terms with their anger often live out their lives in reactive and disempowered fashion.
4. Some people seem to feel alive only when they are angry, because of the energy, power, and passion that comes with it. A reminder, if you will, that "Oh yes, I am alive!" This may also explain the whole notion of why 'makeup sex' can be so intense.
Typically, after this orientation-like discussion, I will send a client home with a worksheet that allows them to think and process this material. When they return, they often seem very motivated to approach, engage, and even embrace their anger.
In fact, it is remarkable that I still have ears in place, rather than mere hearholes.
HOW IS YOUR ANGER?
deorre
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Comment by Lilla
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here I was come to de-stress with Deorre and now... I'm.... ANGRY...*lol*
errghm...*cough* I'm not an angry person *yeah right* but I am volatile and do get really angry at things like the next person, I know an eye for an eye doesn't help the world see, but I think you have to let your anger out immediately you need too...not before thinking...but soon - to the one who deserves it...otherwise it gets all bottled up and gundgy and turns into depression instead of a healthy grief...*guffaw* Or worse you clobber your loved ones instead!
I know that sounds mad, but there's an order, right...?
Denial
Anger
Grief
Depression
Acceptance (I like this stage... it's dinner party stage with lots of wine and good conversation...aha ha)
I don't know all about that, but I do know that if you don't tell the person that irritates you off and are always Mr or Mrs Nice New Age guy/girl [as I tried to be for years] you will end up on medication... or worse, on your couch! (jj)
I don't know many people around me who are religious say that you should suffer in silence and cry heaps... I don't buy it and whilst I'm not into hitting everyone I meet, I do think healthy anger is necessary in life, in general, no?
I read somewhere that stress is the bodies natural reaction to the mind overriding the bodies need to beat the sh*t out of some Ass!*le who really deserves it...?
Lilla...
Comment by Deorre
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We "moderate" this natural feeling so much that our bodies begin to contort in some cases. And, new age nice nice is actually kind of boring and dead.