Adolescent Brain Disorder
March 5th 2007 23:55
Remarkably, even those with years of experience in people processes may fail to see what exists directly in front of them. Particularly, if they are the proud owners/disowners/disownees of an adolescent in full-force post-puberty expression and identity erection, er...erecting, er...formation.
Sweet Jesus, take me now. I do belive my work is done here. For I have done all I can.
I am fully convinced that in the seemingly chaotic forging of neophyte neural pathways, sense and reason are different than for those with well carved brain circuitry. My "well defined" stream of consciousness, for instance, compared to my 15y/o son's muddy, murky, shallow, and uncontained rill of chaotic non-direction and spillage.
Sweet Jesus take me now!
I've grown particularly fond of the dull and flat-affected response when I ask him how things are going. Picture, if you will, a blank stare, mouth partially open, and, if I am lucky, an utterance.
"Wait, what?", he may volley in his trademark monotone.
"How's it going", I patiently retort.
Silence. Oh wait, silly me. I've interrupted his 'texting'. This is critical stuff, you know. Text messaging is how he creates and sustains non-relationships with other teens who likely have similarly ill-defined neural pathways of identity. Thusly, also seeking non-relationship that is safe and non-threatening.
I can't help myself, and like so many times before I query, "Why don't you just call them? Isn't it easier?"
"Wait, what?", he blandly lobs in my direction. "Oh yeh, that", he concludes.
Fascinating how adept and agile with that little number pad, yet how lacking as a conversationalist. Or maybe it's just me. I am an old fart, you know.
The saving grace is that my 15 y/o son is providing me with the material I need to become famous in my formulation of the new psychological diagnosis called Adolescent Brain Disorder (ABD).
Have you been exposed to ABD?
deorre
Sweet Jesus, take me now. I do belive my work is done here. For I have done all I can.
I am fully convinced that in the seemingly chaotic forging of neophyte neural pathways, sense and reason are different than for those with well carved brain circuitry. My "well defined" stream of consciousness, for instance, compared to my 15y/o son's muddy, murky, shallow, and uncontained rill of chaotic non-direction and spillage.
Sweet Jesus take me now!
I've grown particularly fond of the dull and flat-affected response when I ask him how things are going. Picture, if you will, a blank stare, mouth partially open, and, if I am lucky, an utterance.
"Wait, what?", he may volley in his trademark monotone.
"How's it going", I patiently retort.
Silence. Oh wait, silly me. I've interrupted his 'texting'. This is critical stuff, you know. Text messaging is how he creates and sustains non-relationships with other teens who likely have similarly ill-defined neural pathways of identity. Thusly, also seeking non-relationship that is safe and non-threatening.
I can't help myself, and like so many times before I query, "Why don't you just call them? Isn't it easier?"
"Wait, what?", he blandly lobs in my direction. "Oh yeh, that", he concludes.
Fascinating how adept and agile with that little number pad, yet how lacking as a conversationalist. Or maybe it's just me. I am an old fart, you know.
The saving grace is that my 15 y/o son is providing me with the material I need to become famous in my formulation of the new psychological diagnosis called Adolescent Brain Disorder (ABD).
Have you been exposed to ABD?
deorre
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Comment by Lilla
From The Home Front
Enviro Warrior
Dream Herald
Esoteric Bookshop
...I'm afriad, you're just an old fart *lol* no seriously, I hope it's not because he watches too much TV? I've just come off the dinner table with my girls, where we were talking about sex and being chased by boys at school. The difference (they say) is noticeable from the boys who watch too much TV, compared to those who don't watch that much.
My own psychological understanding, is that normally men think of sex every six seconds - they do not act on it. Women think of sex about every eight seconds - they do not act on it. TV however, is shoving sex at our kids as much as every two seconds and constantly affirming - yep, here's another image of people acting on it. Just act on it. Hey, everybody acts on it, every two seconds, don't they?
Failing that, I blame preservatives and bad FDA corruption for the crap my children must eat and the water they are not encouraged to drink. They need 2 litres a day, God we all do, anything short of that is madness... now more than ever to flush the flouride, and poisons that a consumer driven madness has produced...
Do you get your son out in the fresh air? Do you play cards in the evening together and switch off the TV? Do you switch of the computer and TV after one hour of each? I believe all these things help, big 'electronic silences' (I call them), have made huge differences around my place... not that the TV ever went on... I am a REALLY old fart, who has never allowed it.. hey I'm not here to win a popularity contest...
"Don't like it?" I tell my teenager, well then, get a job and move out of home, while you still know everything...*lol* seriously, we have a great realtionship, considering all the hormones that rage between us; mine pre-menopausal and her's? ... just raging!
It's an interesting ole life, isn't it?
I find your observation of texting hillarious, I hope he pays for his own credit though?
A very interesting read,
Nice to know I'm not alone...
Lilla ~
Comment by Deorre
Stress Alive
Man Lessons
Interesting group, those teens.